God, love, friendship, Relationships - all these are not a necessity.
Because look at all this as a basic human need, many people look for love.
focus our search but not out, to love, but to be loved. One longs for someone to one of its insatiable thirst to be loved, to allay.
This attitude has nothing to do with love. is called Looking to satisfy his needs, creates a kind of addiction, the "attachment".
attachment is never identical with love, even though it looks very similar. Often the "love" nothing more than a pair of mutually complementary addiction, a big arrest. Bonding never leads to freedom.
remain So the people looking for love that they learn effectively and not at the same time they perceive a world where love is lacking them.
One feels as needy. And a needy person can not love.
If you approach each other, internally drained, and believing and hoping that would be the other her Prince Charming, the woman of his dreams. For a moment you think actually that this is the person to a can escape from the suffering and misery, the person who could save one of our misery of loneliness, the person could give to the hoped-for solution of all sadness, bitterness and suffering. It is thought that this was the person who can solve our problems. The partner sees the other but, thinking exactly the same. He or she would be a life saver. And you expect love - being loved.
What happens when two beings who both have the wish to receive, obtain, come together? Both go out with empty hands.
It follows the disillusionment, the anger and the pain of unfulfilled expectations without understanding that this projection would harm the ending can never work. It was a search for a solution which the self, not even the eternal soul, and touched their needs. But still, it was believed that it would be to meet. All the relationships that the ego has to fluctuating world, are insubstantial, so connotative resonates in them has always been a void. have
The need relationships with others to do must be overcome. Not the relations themselves should be abandoned, but the need and the perceived need for it. This need turns one into a slave. In the task of which is the love for the people that surround one of the friends, to partner, not a closed-in concept, not based on need, but becomes a healing love, which also aims are far beyond the loved one - always on the real Object of love back: Sri Krishna.
No being on the planet, not even God can, the selfish and thirsty need quiet. Just as friendship and love and God is not a necessity.
If people around you do not solve the pain of loneliness can own, then you fall back on God, but he will not step in there, too. The true God is not a stopgap.
to the suffering of unfulfilled desires, there is not any solution, even God. The only problem is the lack projected desire for a Fata Morgana, the belief that the thirst of the little ego to be silent.
Actually I am a being who loves, gives no an expectation that giving without expecting anything in return. It is likely, even without a reaction. The point is not being loved, but the exclusive type. In the insight which you always feel grateful and never discouraged. It is a free flow, which does not bind to the reactions that come from outside.
is avoided then no more connections, but experienced relationship to everything - all human beings, trees, birds, flowers, clouds, lakes - the imprisonment without the expectation of need and without the prison.
This is the free state of consciousness, the Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita describes as
"samah sarveshu bhuteshu" (Bhagavad Gita 18.54), the equality of all beings, from which Bhakti, loving devotion arises in him self.
